Connect Better At Work

dennyzhang

URL: https://quantcodedenny.com/posts/connect-better/

Introduction

For a successful tech lead, it usually has four steps: scope better -> do better -> look better -> connect better.

Doing great work is only part of success. My influence grows when others know, trust, and rely on me.

Connecting better at work is most powerful when it becomes a small daily habit — one or two simple actions that naturally build trust, relationships, and impact.

Core Daily Habit

Each day, I focus on one key action:

  • Notice & Add Value – Do at least one of these per day:

    • Ask a thoughtful question to understand someone’s priorities or challenges.
    • Share a useful resource, tip, introduction, or recognition.

  • Follow Through – Complete or update one commitment each day.

    • If I can’t complete it, I proactively communicate the update.

Daily Routine (2–3 min each)**

  • Morning: Pick one person to check in with or help today.
  • During Day: Apply one core daily habit naturally.
  • End of Day: Log one insight or follow-up for tomorrow; optionally send a quick thank-you or recognition.

Weekly Reflection (5 min)**

  • Who did I meaningfully connect with this week?
  • What one helpful action did I take for each person?
  • Plan one simple connection action for next week.

Quick Tips

  • Small, consistent actions beat rare grand gestures.
  • Focus on helping others achieve their goals, not just visibility.
  • Keep notes in one place for easy follow-up.

Common Pitfalls

  • Focusing only on networking for personal gain feels transactional.
  • Skipping follow-ups reduces trust.
  • Ignoring listening or empathy weakens connections.

Conclusion

Connecting better at work is both a skill and a habit. I make it automatic with one simple action per day: notice, add value, or follow through.

At the end of each week, I reflect briefly: Who did I understand better, help, or stay connected with, and what simple action will strengthen the connection next week?